Interpreting Chinese Friends ^_^
Over a year and a half ago, when I immigrated to the opposite side the planet to live and work in a new country, I really didn’t know much about my new home or what was socially acceptable. Which caused some mishaps and, ah, adventures – haha. Anyways, here are 8 things I wish I’d known before attempting to make Chinese friends (because 8 is lucky!). 1. They’re going to find it awkward to say “no” or to refuse you. This is sometimes called “being indirect,” or “saving face,” or whatever. The point is, Chinese people value your friendship and mutual good feelings above all else (as opposed to Americans who value an honest or direct answer). So be wary of a “maybe,” and sensitive to your friends’ discomfort – they might be trying to say “no.” 2. You don’t need to tell others your plans, and if you do, they might interpret your story as an invitation to join. When refusing an invitation, it’s okay to say, “I can’t, I have a thing” without explaining the thing. 3. You don’